Sunday, May 18, 2014

True Life: Body Shame and Blogging

Truly appreciating your own body and being confident about your own body image can be tough. I have struggled with this since I started blogging, and way before then too. 

I have 3 kids. I had my first when I was 20. At the moment I love my body more than ever in some ways and less in others. I feel like I can never just be happy with it. When I am skinnier I have one set of issues and when I am curvier I have another. I have learned to just laugh it off, live healthfully and dress the best I can so I can get on with my life.

My body issues can make it really nerve wrecking to get dressed in the mornings. It's even worse when I want to share my outfit of the day on my blog. It bothers me so much so that I have been avoiding posting pictures of myself lately (I plan to change that, I have some adorable new outfits after all :p). I keep blogging anyways because I love the art of fashion. I also like networking and reading other people's blogs for inspiration. Fashion is always changing and it is great to see what everyone is up to and where everyone is shopping - the trendy, the timeless, and especially the rebels ;).

Today I watched the video below and it really resonated with me. I think it is so great that this woman, Taryn Brumfitt, is reaching out to women who have issues with their bodies. She even launched a Kickstarter to promote her cause. She is so "on it"! 

Her mini documentary is truly inspirational. It is sad to see that most women do not like their bodies no matter what shape or size they are. It inspired me to love my own body a little more because we have all been blessed with beautiful bodies, minds and souls. I bet that many men have these issues too, even though they may not vocalize their insecurities as often. I think that it is so easy to focus on the negative rather than the positive, although I do believe that the negative can be a great motivator in small doses - and with the right attitude. 

Another thing that I occasionally get self conscious about is my age. I am over 25 but I still have a ways to go till I reach 30. I feel happier, wiser and even prettier than ever before but I also feel more introspective and sometimes old. I bet the majority of fashion bloggers are younger than me. Once you reach your mid twenties it's like most people expect you just to give up and adopt an alternate, professionally relevant, identity and move on. 

This made me want to stop blogging at one point but then one day I realized something: I will never stop loving fashion. I should just dress according to what makes me feel my best - not according to what I feel like I am expected to wear by society. I should just be myself and be confident. I bet there are tons of other women and men out there who feel like me in one way or another. I think it would be amazing if more and more of us just started showing how happy we are to just be ourselves. I think this is already happening to an extent as it seems like the positive body movement keeps gaining momentum. 

Hope all is well in your world. You are all so talented and beautiful! I have been so blessed by every little heart on Bloglovin' and Polyvore, and I truly appreciate every follower and every comment. Thank you all!

<3 KM


  1. *hugs* I would take you out on a photoshoot if you lived closer to me. Confidence is always more important than size!

    1. Ugh, I miss you so fricken much. So glad we can do this together though! I agree about the confidence thing but I'm still gonna work on my bod lol.

  2. I love this post! You're speaking from the bottom of my heart! Love your body and keep on posting! You look amazing!


    1. Ty, you are such a beauty! <3 your blog and your classy style!